I’ve titled this week’s Tuesday Reading “Real Influence” from the title of Mark Goulston and John Ullmen’s book “Real Influence: Persuade Without Pushing and Gain Without Giving In.” Goulston is a business psychiatrist, executive coach and cofounder of Heartfelt Leadership. Ullmen oversees the website MotivationRules.com and teaches at the UCLA Anderson School of Management. This reading is drawn from four HBR blog posts from the two authors.
Leadership lessons continue to flow from the recent worst-to-first Red Sox season. Here is a great article from Fast Company on David Ortiz and leadership, "World Series MVP David Ortiz's Big, Bold, On-the-fly Leadership Lessons".
Today’s Tuesday Reading is “Surprises Are the New Normal; Resilience Is the New Skill,” an essay by Rosabeth Moss Kanter, Ernest L. Arbuckle Professor at the Harvard Business School where she specializes in strategy, innovation, and leadership for change. The essay appeared in July 2013 in the HBR blog.
Great reminder from Harry Kraemer, professor at Kellogg School of Management, on keeping things simple, shared at MOR's 2012 conference.
"Anything I've done that was ultimately worthwhile initially scared me to death."
- Do you avoid situations that you perceive as conflict?
- Do you avoid doing things that are anxiety provoking?
- Do you perceive that you "can't" do those things or are you unwilling to try?
- How will you learn, grow and move past them?
- Make a plan. It's very rewarding.
We have all had experiences when we’ve been trying to sell a new idea of strategizing as to whether to invite the critics, the naysayers, the we’ve-tried-that-before colleagues, etc.
A tired and stressed out brain hates change. Change means learning, something new, creating new connections that lead to a new neural network. And, this doesn’t go well if the brain isn’t ready. Too often our work lives make it hard for our brain to learn – demands of our jobs and our unhealthy sleeping and eating habits.
Among the attributes that all leaders need is confidence – not too much so as to be blinded by benign overly confidence and not too little to feel inadequate.
"Your life doesn’t get better by chance. It gets better by choice."
- Author Unknown
- Do you hold resentments from your past?
- Do you tend to blame others for positions that you find yourself in?
- How did you respond to those events? What choices did you make?
- Try the mantra "If it is to be it is up to me" and choose your present and future!